Birth and Death

Birth and death are true mysteries. We, mere mortals, never know when the exact time each of these transforming experiences will be - the universe surprises us. November was a sad month for me. November 10th my dear Dad was moved into a long term care facility. He was broken hearted to leave his beloved wife, my Mom, but he needed nursing care that could not be provided at home. Then, a very dear family member, who was only 33 years old passed away from a brain tumour. I had the pleasure of knowing him since he was born. He called me his second Mom. He was always a very sweet child and a wonderful man. Ten days after his death, my daughter gave birth to her second child, bringing joy, and the realization that life and death are a continuous dance.

I was with my Dad when he passed away on January 29th. He was finally free from the physical pain he had endured for almost twelve years. I was filled with relief that he didn't have to suffer anymore and with a deep sadness, as I will miss him. Ten days later my youngest son's wife gave birth to a child, so my Dad's name will live on in his great grandson. The dance goes on.

Birth/Death

In April, May and June there were three beautiful new babies born in our family. July 8th there was memorial service for an aunt who had died earlier in the year; July 9th was the 60th wedding anniversary of an aunt and uncle; July 10th was the wedding celebration for a cousin; and July 11th my sister's sister-in-law died; July 14th was my parent's 64th wedding anniversary and July 15th was my Mom's 84th birthday.

Whew! Birth, death, wedding, birthday, anniversary - that just about covers all the important events in life. How do I feel? Grateful. Life is delicate and such an honour to experience. I am so happy that I have yoga and meditation to keep me together during the difficult times. One takes on a more objective and philosophical look at everything happening, so that it does not get too overwhelming.

It is important when a person that you know dies to contact their family. They will appreciate a phone call. It is nice to share a special story and it will make the family feel better. Some people don't make an effort to make contact and miss an opportunity to really help those left behind. All special events need to be acknowledged. It makes people feel special - and they are special!